I nearly didn’t tell you. I’ve had the strange pleasure of winning a
literary award last week. And ever since
I’ve had this impulse to play it down, while at the same time I want to shout
it to the world.
literary award last week. And ever since
I’ve had this impulse to play it down, while at the same time I want to shout
it to the world.
I won.
At last someone recognises something
in my writing that’s worth, not only a trophy and a certificate, but also a
$2000.00 cheque. On top of which the
organisers of the first ever Lane Cove literary awards flew me to Sydney and
provided accommodation over night at the Stamford hotel near the airport so I
could make an early get away the next morning.
in my writing that’s worth, not only a trophy and a certificate, but also a
$2000.00 cheque. On top of which the
organisers of the first ever Lane Cove literary awards flew me to Sydney and
provided accommodation over night at the Stamford hotel near the airport so I
could make an early get away the next morning.
There were four other awards, besides
mine for memoir, two for local writers, one for short story and another for poetry.
mine for memoir, two for local writers, one for short story and another for poetry.
It is the first time I have arrived
at an airport alone to be greeted, not by family or friends, but by a man
holding up a cardboard sign with my name on it.
at an airport alone to be greeted, not by family or friends, but by a man
holding up a cardboard sign with my name on it.
The man who held up the sign was
one of the librarians who had been given the task of collecting me from the
airport because the other librarians were busy organising the event. We travelled through busy Sydney streets to
the Lane Cove library and all the way I wondered whether it was really
happening.
one of the librarians who had been given the task of collecting me from the
airport because the other librarians were busy organising the event. We travelled through busy Sydney streets to
the Lane Cove library and all the way I wondered whether it was really
happening.
Was this me? A prize winner or a fraud?
They must have it wrong.
All the while as the two judges read
out the names of the short listed, first in the short story category and then
in memoir, I wondered whether they might end up calling out another name,
not mine.
out the names of the short listed, first in the short story category and then
in memoir, I wondered whether they might end up calling out another name,
not mine.
The evening flutters by, drowned
out of my memory by my tiredness the next day.
I needed to wake at 4.30 am in order to be ready for my 6 o’clock flight
back to Melbourne.
out of my memory by my tiredness the next day.
I needed to wake at 4.30 am in order to be ready for my 6 o’clock flight
back to Melbourne.
I discovered then something I had not
realised before on the plane to Sydney in a book about compulsions and eating disorders.
realised before on the plane to Sydney in a book about compulsions and eating disorders.
I discovered that one of the reasons that people
might choose to starve themselves to death is, not only to do with trying to get
some control over their lives and suppress their desires, but also to do with competition, and with their refusal
to compete.
might choose to starve themselves to death is, not only to do with trying to get
some control over their lives and suppress their desires, but also to do with competition, and with their refusal
to compete.
The idea is that the person who tries
to take control over her life by getting control of her eating, does so by
working hard to convince herself that she has no such desire for food, or
nourishment, or even for love.
to take control over her life by getting control of her eating, does so by
working hard to convince herself that she has no such desire for food, or
nourishment, or even for love.
It gets tangled up in sexuality as
well. The two great life forces, food
and sex, bound together as we know biologically, determinants for personal
survival but also survival of our species.
They’re also bound up in pleasure.
well. The two great life forces, food
and sex, bound together as we know biologically, determinants for personal
survival but also survival of our species.
They’re also bound up in pleasure.
Adam Phillips re-tells the story of
a man named Bartleby, Bartleby a scrivener in Wall Street in the 1800s, who for some unfathomable reason
when his boss asks him to undertake the work for which he is employed, says
a man named Bartleby, Bartleby a scrivener in Wall Street in the 1800s, who for some unfathomable reason
when his boss asks him to undertake the work for which he is employed, says
‘I would prefer not to.’
Herman Melville wrote the story in 1853 and
for years people have struggled to understand what it’s about.
for years people have struggled to understand what it’s about.
Bartleby takes up the position of one
who goes on strike.
who goes on strike.
I refuse to
participate.
participate.
I will not be drawn in to whatever
it is you have arranged for me.
it is you have arranged for me.
I will assert myself by my refusal, even if it
kills me.
kills me.
These ideas stay with me. I’m trying them out, rolling them around
inside my mouth as if savouring a new flavour, a new texture, a new sensation
and it pleases me to see things from this angle.
inside my mouth as if savouring a new flavour, a new texture, a new sensation
and it pleases me to see things from this angle.
There is a reason behind starving
oneself to death.
oneself to death.
There is a reason
behind someone’s refusal to participate and compete.
behind someone’s refusal to participate and compete.
There is a reason behind what on the surface
seems like the maddest of behaviours.
seems like the maddest of behaviours.
And I am getting one step closer to
understanding it.
understanding it.
How then can I link the competition
of awards night with my own competitive impulses and my contradictory desires
to water them down?
of awards night with my own competitive impulses and my contradictory desires
to water them down?
So many times I have gone to say about
this award:
this award:
It’s no big deal.
How many times have I told myself
it’s not one of the big awards? It’s
more a beginner’s award.
it’s not one of the big awards? It’s
more a beginner’s award.
How many times do I compete with my
own success as if I cannot bear to allow it?
own success as if I cannot bear to allow it?
Is this what women do, and more so
than men?
than men?
I’ve a sneaking feeling that’s
true.
true.
Women are used to hiding in the
curtains.
curtains.
To be on centre stage for more than
a few minutes can be overwhelming.
a few minutes can be overwhelming.
It’s easier to be like Bartleby and
rejoice in resistance.
rejoice in resistance.
I’d rather not.
Heartfelt congratulations, Elisabeth! Do we get to read it somewhere?
Congratulations, Elisabeth, on an award well-deserved and this particular post demonstrates the qualities of your writing the award committee chose to honor.
I'd love to put this story up on my blog, but the folks who organised the competition want to publish it in an anthology later next year. So I shall resist but I'm happy to send it to anyone who wants to read it via email.
No surprise to me, and most of the others who look forward to reading your blog; a just award.
I'd certainly love to read this story, I really would. My email is pg.harfleet@gmail.com
Best wishes, Phil
Well deserved. Your writing is always wonderful. I look forward to your well expressed thought each week.
Very well done, Elizabeth. Congratulations from Canada!
That "To be on centre stage for more than a few minutes can be overwhelming" suggests to me that you are an introvert. Like many great writers.
Blessings and Bear hugs, from another introvert.
No, I understand completely. I’m terribly ill-suited to being a writer let alone being anything resembling a successful writer. I don’t like being the centre of attention. It’s one of the reasons I never enter any competitions—at least I haven’t for many years now—because I might win. They would want me to go someplace, meet people, deliver a speech, smile. But I’m pleased for you. Of course I’m pleased for you. It’s the kind of approval friends and family get. Of course you’ve been published in serious journals with serious names; that’s not to be sniffed at either. And all of it feeds our need for approval. I don’t want attention but I never said anything about not wanting approval.
Worth is an odd measure. A thing can have a value, a price and a cost but where does worth come into the equation?
I don’t like confrontation and what is competition if not a form of confrontation? Thankfully when it comes to writing competitions it’s not as if we have to stand on a platform and face off against our opponents and that’s a good thing. Of course by refusing to compete I’m denying myself, starving myself; because even if I don’t win—and the odds are I won’t—there’s nourishment to be had from the very thought of winning, the possibility of approval. Instead I subsist on comments on blogs and the odd e-mail. A French professor recently asked me to contribute an article to a magazine he runs. I declined—the commitment is too much—but the acknowledgement was proof enough that I was worth asking.
Of course I’m worth something to myself. Self-worth. That sum fluctuates quite a bit. To a millionaire two thousand Australian dollars is nothing. To me it’s a big deal. There’re not many people in this world I’d hand over eleven hundred quid too. I paid a plumber just about that this week and a carpet-fitter a few weeks back. That puts $2000 in perspective: a new carpet or a replacement boiler. Then again I pretty much expect both the carpet and the boiler to last until I die—the boiler certainly—so that’s another way of looking at it. Or am I talking now about value as opposed to worth?
I’ve no idea if women react differently to men. On the whole I’d say not but I’m generally resistant to underscoring the differences between the sexes. Yes, there are differences but we’re not so different that they make that much difference A fork is no better or worse than a spoon: melt them down and they probably both come to the same amount of metal. I’m writing a review of J.M. Coetzee’s book Elizabeth Costello at the moment and in researching him I discovered an interesting thing: when asked to give speeches what he generally does—at least since 1997—is read a short story featuring a woman, a writer in many way not too dissimilar to Coetzee, who, during the course of the story delivers a lecture. Odd for a man, a great man, a man who not too long ago didn’t just win $2000 and a nice certificate to hang on his wall but was handed a cheque for 10m kronor and a gold medal by the Royal Swedish Academy, to hide (too strong a word?) behind the skirts of a woman like that.
Do e-mail me a copy of your entry.
Oh wow Elizabeth! Well done girl, it is well deserved and you should indeed be proud of your achievements!
Hang that certificate with great pride 🙂 And shout it out!!
Congratulations Liz – well done. You're a great writer, why should you not be winning prizes. Lovely news.
Pand
Congratulations Elizabeth! It's well-deserved and high time to be certain.
As a painter who started with little more than a passion to create, I know the excitement, thrill and non-belief which takes over when you're notified you've won recognition for your work.
I'm sure every one of us who regularly read your words, is very happy to know YOU'VE MADE IT!
Well Done,
Sincerely,
Gary.
Congratulations. Well deserved.